后半生,圈子不大,有你有茶 In the second half of my life, the circle is not big, I have tea with you

In the second half of my life, the circle is not big, there is tea with you
Life is a process from zero to one hundred, and then from one hundred to zero.
Half a lifetime has passed, and most of the friends gathered together in the first half of their lives are lost in a trance.
The strong spirits chased in the first half of his life have also become rough tea and light rice.
It turns out that I really don't want much in the second half of my life. It's nothing more than a small circle and a life with tea with you.
The circle is not big, three or five friends are enough
An interesting study shows that at the age of 25, your number of friends peaks; after 25, your social circle will become smaller and smaller.
There used to be many friends, his group, our group, and now many people are lost in the middle of the road. Even so, it is not a bad thing.
Everyone’s departure may have different ambitions or different perspectives, but in any case, I wish him good luck for the company for a while.
Those who really settle down are those who I should cherish in the future.
There is a very interesting theory in sociology-the "Dunbar Number", also called the "150 Law". In other words: the number of humans allowed to have a stable social circle is 148, about 150.
If you remove relatives, colleagues, and classmates, there is nothing left, but three to five, at most two palms can be counted.
These "within ten fingers" friends are confidantes who may accompany for life.
No matter how many friends of wine and meat, it is not as good as a confidant within ten fingers. The circle does not need to be large. It is enough to have three or five confidants.
Not many circles, clean life
Liu Yuxi’s "The Inscription of the Shabby Room" says: Si is a shabby room, but I am ethical
The same simple and simple room, others think it is simple and shabby, you think it is simple and simple.
Viewing the scenery in different circles, the scenery is also different. Just like you can see the blue sky and white clouds through the window, and what he may see is the mud and dirty flies on the ground.
The circles are different, so there is no need to force them together.
Life is an experience, gains and losses, glory and shame, ups and downs, the more you care about, the more pain in your heart. The more you give up, the quieter your heart will be.
Isn't it the same in social circles?
Some people pursue a wide range of contacts, countless circles, and many contacts. They are busy with socializing and making friends every day, but they have never lived for themselves for a few days.
It is better to have fewer unnecessary social circles to make room for your soul and a leisurely life for yourself.
In fact, it is not difficult, as long as you are appropriately busy, don't forget to be free.
The busy word is opened, it is heart and death, the more busy, the more confused; the idle word is opened, it is a door, a wood, and trees are planted in the door, from morning to evening.
One-third of this year has passed. By next year, there will be no need for more circles to live a clean life.
The circle is not complicated, you have tea
Zhou Zuoren said:
Drinking tea should be under the tiled paper window, with clear spring green tea, using simple and elegant ceramic tea sets, and drinking with two or three people. A half-day leisure can be worth ten years of dust dreams.
Sneak leisurely, find a good place in the floating world, have tea and chat with your confidants.
This is probably the pleasure of tea drinkers.
No matter who, after drinking tea for a long time, they will not consciously change a little, become quieter and simpler.
It is not the magic of tea, but the process of drinking tea and the artistic conception of tea will make people change subtly.
People who love tea, the circle is not mixed, you have tea.
"You" is a confidant and friend, sharing weal and woe; "tea" is the age of thousands, all in the pot.
Have leisure, and leisure, take advantage of leisure, drink tea with a confidant.
Wu Qiushan said that if you have nothing to do, invite one or two of your friends to make a pot of tea in the teahouse and sit in peace for a few hours, sipping tea and chatting at will. This is also a leisurely way of doing things.
Have fun, and go happy, go happy in time, spend time with your friends.
To drink tea, the circle does not need to be complicated, only a friend and tea are needed.
In life, you must make friends with the righteous and don't make unrighteous friends; drink quiet tea and don't be greedy for colorful wine.
People who love tea have a small circle, and you have tea. ...
For the rest of his life, the circle slowly shrank, but his love for tea remained. Time will sift out the unfamiliar and unintentional, leaving behind confidants and the taste of tea.

后半生,圈子不大,有你有茶

人生,是从零到百,再从百到零的过程。

半生已过,前半生聚在一块的朋友,恍惚间少了大半。

前半生追逐的烈酒浓情,也变成了粗茶淡饭。

原来后半生想要的真不多,无非是一个不大的圈子,跟有你有茶的生活。

圈子不大,三五知己足矣

有一项有趣的研究表明:25岁时,你的朋友数量达到顶峰;过了25岁,你的社交圈会越来越小。

曾经许多朋友,他一伙,咱一伙,如今许多人走丢在半路上,虽然如此,却也不是坏事。

每个人的离开,或是志向不同、或是三观不同,但无论如何,陪伴过一程,便祝他好运吧。

那些真正沉淀下来的,才是自己往后应该珍惜的人。

社会学里有一个非常有意思的理论——“邓巴数字”,也叫“150定律”。也就是说:人类允许自己拥有稳定的社交圈人数是148人,约150人。

去掉亲戚、同事、同学,那还剩下的,不过三五个,顶多两个手掌就能数的清。

这些“十指之内”的朋友,是可能陪伴一生的知己。

酒肉朋友再多,不如十指内的知己,圈子无需多大,有个三五知己,便足矣。

圈子不多,清净生活

刘禹锡的《陋室铭》讲:斯是陋室,惟吾德馨

同样一间简简单单的居室,别人认为简陋、寒酸,你认为简约、朴素。

不同圈子看风景,风景也不尽相同。就像你透过窗户能看见蓝天白云,而他可能看到的,是地上的污泥与肮脏的苍蝇。

圈子不同,不必强融。

人生本就是一场体验,得与失、荣与辱、起与落,你在乎的越多,心里就越痛苦。你舍弃的越多,内心就越清静。

社交圈子不也如此?

有些人追求人脉广,圈子无数,人脉极多,每日忙于应酬,疲于交友,却不曾为自己活过几天。

还不如少些无谓的社交圈,给心灵腾出空间,来一段为己而活的悠闲。

其实也不难,只要适当地忙,也别忘了闲。

忙字拆开,是心、亡,越忙,就越迷茫;闲字拆开,是门、木,门里植树,晨起到日暮。

这一年已过去三分之一,等到明年,圈子不需多,过一下清净生活。

圈子不杂,有你有茶

周作人讲:

喝茶当于瓦屋纸窗之下,清泉绿茶,用素雅的陶瓷茶具,同二三人共饮,得半日之闲,可抵十年的尘梦。

忙里偷闲,于浮世中,觅一好去处,与知己好友,喝茶谈天。

这大概是喝茶人的享乐。

无论谁,喝茶的时间久了,都不自觉会有些改变,变得更静、更朴素。

并非茶有什么魔力,而是喝茶的过程、茶的意境,会让人潜移默化地发生改变。

爱茶的人,圈子不杂,有你有茶。

“你”是知己好友,患难与共;“茶”是千秋岁月,尽在壶中。

得闲暇,且闲暇,趁着闲暇,与知己喝清茶。

吴秋山说,如果身无事牵,邀之一二知友,在茶馆里泡了一壶清茶,安闲地坐他几个钟头,随意啜茗谈天,也是悠然尘外的一种行乐法子。

该行乐,且行乐,及时行乐,同好友把光阴舍。

喝茶,圈子无需复杂,只需要知己与茶。

人生在世,须交有道之人,莫结无义之友;饮清静之茶,莫贪花色之酒。

爱茶的人,圈子不大,有你有茶。    

往后余生,圈子慢慢缩小,对茶却热爱依旧。时间会筛掉无缘、无心的人,留下知己,以及茶的味道。

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